tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post4800091666595667376..comments2023-10-05T10:00:27.231-07:00Comments on The Diary of a Gold-Digger: In which Sly is not dead even a week and Ted has already threatened to sue about the willthe gold diggerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09134199198587591427noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-60556817083297936232015-11-22T15:29:29.764-08:002015-11-22T15:29:29.764-08:00I hope the lawyer sees some way for Primo to get p...I hope the lawyer sees some way for Primo to get paid for navigating this mess. And Happy Thanksgiving. I'll give thanks that the worst (I hope) is over for you and Primo. Also giving thanks for your blog...and forthcoming book!emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08831705475681591440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-31981877299837408132015-11-21T12:15:46.550-08:002015-11-21T12:15:46.550-08:00I would say it, that last thing about the restaura...I would say it, that last thing about the restaurant and the kids. But I may be a jerk. I think you have had nearly the patience of a Saint...or you have shown it, even if you didn't always feel it.Jake's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05206449342678851430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-59389579238586530192015-11-21T12:15:30.515-08:002015-11-21T12:15:30.515-08:00I would say it, that last thing about the restaura...I would say it, that last thing about the restaurant and the kids. But I may be a jerk. I think you have had nearly the patience of a Saint...or you have shown it, even if you didn't always feel it.Jake's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05206449342678851430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-57791302433447855502015-11-21T07:33:09.848-08:002015-11-21T07:33:09.848-08:00Nope. :) But it might be for trustee. Primo needs ...Nope. :) But it might be for trustee. Primo needs to talk to the lawyer about this. I want him to get every single penny he is due. This has been a nightmare.the gold diggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09134199198587591427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-91721071570980335002015-11-21T07:32:22.467-08:002015-11-21T07:32:22.467-08:00Youngest grandchild is 17. Oldest 21. Assets in tr...Youngest grandchild is 17. Oldest 21. Assets in trust until 30. So yeah.the gold diggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09134199198587591427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-9315702123445761112015-11-21T07:31:45.222-08:002015-11-21T07:31:45.222-08:00Yes! Ted does pull a lot of the "I am the old...Yes! Ted does pull a lot of the "I am the oldest son hence my words carry weight!" crap. HE could have gotten the lawyer to Sly's room. <br /><br />The thing about the fees would have me out, too. I am hoping Primo will resign. (The trusts have not been set up yet - he is just finishing dealing with the house, which he would have had to do even if he had resigned as executor and trustee. Well - not had to. Wanted to.)the gold diggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09134199198587591427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-35292494859450256902015-11-21T07:29:59.197-08:002015-11-21T07:29:59.197-08:00emma, Ted thinks he has a career but I see no evid...emma, Ted thinks he has a career but I see no evidence of one! But yeah - that is how he rolls - bully and intimidate people to get what you want. No wonder his wife drinks too much. (Although she is no angel herself, as you will see in the next few months.)the gold diggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09134199198587591427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-22730768551300479162015-11-21T07:29:02.652-08:002015-11-21T07:29:02.652-08:00What? What a horrible story. What a mess. Your poo...What? What a horrible story. What a mess. Your poor dad. It seems that it always the ethical people who get screwed. What did your dad ever do to his siblings to deserve that? (Nothing! I know! That was a rhetorical question.) Some people are just mean. I hope karma gets them in this lifetime.the gold diggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09134199198587591427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-37039256444342915602015-11-20T18:47:34.566-08:002015-11-20T18:47:34.566-08:00My grandfather's last will (which should have ...My grandfather's last will (which should have been rewritten after all this crap went down in my humble not-a-lawyer-opinion) divided the land he lived on between my aunt and uncle. He had developed it with three rental trailers plus the one he lived in, but my uncle moved into one and his stepdaughters into the other two when my grandfather's health started declining. My father's share was a rental house in another town. Dad didn't think it was fair and said so when my grandfather announced his intentions.<br /><br />Well my grandfather ended up selling the rental house in a lease-to-own deal. My sister was admitted to the hospital, so me and my mother rushed to another state to take care of her. While my grandfather and the buyer were in his lawyer's office finalizing the house sale, my aunt (my father's sister) and my uncle (my father's brother) descended on the office and nobody could leave until they got what my grandfather wanted to leave to them signed over to them right then, because my father would suddenly get his in cash. My father (who remained behind working his job) was not told about this meeting until months after my grandfather died about five months later.<br /><br />We all think it was elder abuse, but since my grandfather never told us what happened, we couldn't reverse anything. My grandfather did offer the money, which he hadn't collected yet, to my father who wouldn't take it because hello it is yours until you're dead. <br /><br />And to make matters worse, they along with the lawyer didn't tell my father what had been done after my grandfather died and my father was trying to see that the shitty will was executed. This is the part I can't forgive them for. My grandfather was a horrible person; him and Sly could have traded notes on how to screw their children. My aunt and uncle decided this was the best way to get the S.O.B., fine. But they sat there and lied to my father in hopes that he would sign papers and pay off the estate's debts. And his inheritance, the sold rental-house burnt down before the buyer finished paying for it so they money amount wrote in the will never materialized. All the paperwork concerning the succession has been done illegally, and my father refuses to sign anything. The lawyer said it's fine because my grandfather gifted them what was wrote in the will. My baby sister (not the one who got sick) put in a complaint on the lawyer.<br /><br />So that estate remain in limbo, and we're looking at a worse fight when my father's mother dies. All my grandparents divorced before I was born and this doesn't even touch on all the step-drama. ;) Sorry for the book in the comment section. KLCtheBookWormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09876210628556682373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-32561553684460380242015-11-20T14:44:25.762-08:002015-11-20T14:44:25.762-08:00Specifying no fees for executorship - is that lega...Specifying no fees for executorship - is that legal?! Wow. Just wow.emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08831705475681591440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-70870106530429613342015-11-20T13:17:29.848-08:002015-11-20T13:17:29.848-08:00Okay, I have a question. How long until all the gr...Okay, I have a question. How long until all the grandkids are of age, and Primo can stop being the trustee? Because, you know, I see problems in that future.<br /><br />- ACAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-18156330836160885282015-11-20T11:58:36.582-08:002015-11-20T11:58:36.582-08:00Okay, Ted. If it was so easy to get your dad to ch...Okay, Ted. If it was so easy to get your dad to change his will, why didn't you do it? You're the oldest (I assume, anyway), so methinks it was on you to do all of this stuff you're putting on Primo. <br /><br />I know it doesn't and shouldn't work that way, but that's the excuse my dad's family gave him: You're the oldest boy, so you do it. Yes, even my dad's sister who was older than my dad bought into this stuff and put a bunch of this type of crap on him, too. Ted just sickens me so much, and if he thinks it's a finger-snap to do something, then he should have been the one snapping his fingers. It's in the will, so emailing nasty notes to Primo does nothing for him.<br /><br />Regarding the fees (and deliberate refusal of payment per Sly's will)? That would be my exit cue. I have the IRA, so I'm outtie. Have fun dealing with the rest of it, everyone! GRRRRR!Jessicanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-86823936223021350422015-11-20T07:48:08.360-08:002015-11-20T07:48:08.360-08:00Like everyone says, it makes no sense to hire a la...Like everyone says, it makes no sense to hire a lawyer, who will get rich at the expense of the estate.<br />If Ted's M.O. is to IMMEDIATELY start bullying everyone to try to get his own way, no wonder his career needs life support. <br />emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08831705475681591440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-47437178687178654222015-11-20T06:27:51.076-08:002015-11-20T06:27:51.076-08:00Thanks be for small favors, huh?
- ACThanks be for small favors, huh?<br /><br />- ACAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-16275186924953215542015-11-20T05:28:31.109-08:002015-11-20T05:28:31.109-08:00What? How do you get an inheritance before someone...What? How do you get an inheritance before someone dies? That is evil.the gold diggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09134199198587591427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-8648129415803693532015-11-20T05:27:33.403-08:002015-11-20T05:27:33.403-08:00webb, we spent a lot of time trying to figure that...webb, we spent a lot of time trying to figure that one out! And no, Primo and I have no interest whatsoever in ever seeing Ted again.the gold diggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09134199198587591427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-21797896321290361032015-11-20T05:26:58.680-08:002015-11-20T05:26:58.680-08:00Yep. He is the New Sly (Son of Sly!). I don't ...Yep. He is the New Sly (Son of Sly!). I don't think he has half a brain.the gold diggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09134199198587591427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-46775927126661631872015-11-20T05:25:47.082-08:002015-11-20T05:25:47.082-08:00emma, I am surprised Ted has not done that! Maybe ...emma, I am surprised Ted has not done that! Maybe he doesn't know how much money Sly and Doris put into the restaurant. And yes, Jack comes out more than OK here. the gold diggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09134199198587591427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-16552422120037155142015-11-20T05:25:04.482-08:002015-11-20T05:25:04.482-08:00I have tried. :(I have tried. :(the gold diggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09134199198587591427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-18140343874246554522015-11-20T05:23:20.457-08:002015-11-20T05:23:20.457-08:00Thanks, Cat. Despite Sly, it has turned out OK bec...Thanks, Cat. Despite Sly, it has turned out OK because of the IRA, which Sly never wanted to go to Primo, but Primo was the secondary beneficiary after Doris and Sly didn't change anything after Doris died.the gold diggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09134199198587591427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-85758352014958085652015-11-20T05:22:10.937-08:002015-11-20T05:22:10.937-08:00Let me wrap that up in a bow for you: Your dad was...<i>Let me wrap that up in a bow for you: Your dad was looking to screw you. Your brother tried to save you from it. That didn't work. And that means you ended up even more screwed than your dad intended.</i><br /><br />Love. This.the gold diggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09134199198587591427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-39500836197907216262015-11-20T04:19:46.421-08:002015-11-20T04:19:46.421-08:00Wow and Sly's not even in the ground yet. *Si...Wow and Sly's not even in the ground yet. *Sigh* Sounds about right for a dysfunctional family. Small comfort that Ted and Jack didn't decide to take a week when my father was distracted by my sister being seriously ill in the hospital and took Sly to the lawyer to get their inheritance (i.e. my grandfather's assets) two years before he died. And the corrupt lawyer says it's all fine because they got what was wrote down in the will for them to get.<br /><br />Ted and Jack are being awful (and will probably continue being awful) but they didn't steal all of Sly's furniture while he was still using it.<br /><br />"Karma will catch up with them" all has become my mantra to keep my blood pressure down. That and I acknowledge the genealogical ties I have to them but they are not family.KLCtheBookWormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09876210628556682373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-83314968753852345262015-11-20T03:34:21.740-08:002015-11-20T03:34:21.740-08:00One hopes the lawyer who drew it up had a nice lon...One hopes the lawyer who drew it up had a nice long talk with Ted and ended this. Ted finally got what was coming to him. If anyone got screwed, it was Primo ... again.<br /><br />As you already know, the IRA was protected and not a part of the estate. Am guessing that you and Primo may not see Ted all that often in the future.webbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15168174623602308906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-71903003680488737322015-11-19T23:29:45.911-08:002015-11-19T23:29:45.911-08:00Is Ted trying to pick up the mantle of Sly? Time t...Is Ted trying to pick up the mantle of Sly? Time to move on Ted, contesting a will usually ends up in all the assets of the will padding lawyers pockets - anyone with half a brain knows this.<br />I don't envy you or Primo any of this grief. Gaylinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13904849415778217430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-35945101099812242892015-11-19T21:41:04.265-08:002015-11-19T21:41:04.265-08:00Jack doth protest too much - his lovely children w...Jack doth protest too much - his lovely children will have a great start in life and he's already benefitted from the loan for his restaurant. (Will Ted try to make him pay it back to the estate!? I can't wait to find out.)<br />You and Primo have my sympathy; his brothers are being unreasonable...and Ted is unbearable.<br />emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08831705475681591440noreply@blogger.com