tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post6683130498649051643..comments2023-10-05T10:00:27.231-07:00Comments on The Diary of a Gold-Digger: In which Primo and I are suspicious that Sly wants Maria to stay with him not for company but so he won't have to pay a stranger to be in his housethe gold diggerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09134199198587591427noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-6070707603885947482015-11-11T13:41:46.000-08:002015-11-11T13:41:46.000-08:00Seriously, what is it with people who think that o...Seriously, what is it with people who think that other people owe them time and effort? It is a gift, it is not an obligation, for a child (or a grandchild) to care for a (grand)parent.<br /><br />Thank you. :)the gold diggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09134199198587591427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-54931611436246668682015-11-11T08:29:42.056-08:002015-11-11T08:29:42.056-08:00When my grandma was still alive, she had severe de...When my grandma was still alive, she had severe dementia (we think - may have been undiagnosed Alzheimer's). Every time grandpa would be in the hospital, my dad was always the responsible one (like Primo) and take care of grandma. My dad once asked grandpa what his plan was for future events like this, and he said, "Oh, B (my sister) can take care of her." So my grandpa just figured my sister would be fine taking care of her grandma because she still lived with my mom & dad. Nice. Dad said a big ol' NOPE to that. <br /><br />Since then, my dad has invited him to live in the house (currently for sale) across the street from theirs! (Dad would buy it.) Grandpa currently lives alone about 50 minutes away, and dad & mom visit him every week. He said no to moving. Why? "My doctors are here." Nevermind that there are doctors & hospitals in other cities, grandpa. Old people. I guess he'd rather be lonely in his old house that could conceivably kill him. (It's almost happened by accident a couple times.) <br /><br />I feel you. Primo is a saint, and I know you don't feel like it sometimes, but you are a patient woman and a good wife. :) Adlibhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11835176243372633738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-37921303605917573512015-10-06T14:47:36.907-07:002015-10-06T14:47:36.907-07:00Thanks, Marilyn.Thanks, Marilyn.the gold diggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09134199198587591427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-13971457298203533552015-10-06T14:47:28.021-07:002015-10-06T14:47:28.021-07:00I never even thought of that! Excellent point! Mar...I never even thought of that! Excellent point! Maria is tiny - Sly could really hurt her.the gold diggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09134199198587591427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-80018984874245912402015-10-06T14:46:58.126-07:002015-10-06T14:46:58.126-07:00It is something you do with great love and devotio...It is something you do with great love and devotion AND with complete knowledge of what you are getting into. It is not something you spring on someone or try to trick someone into doing.the gold diggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09134199198587591427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-21409987026428001602015-10-06T14:46:17.830-07:002015-10-06T14:46:17.830-07:00I know. :) Most people can learn to clean poop. I know. :) Most people can learn to clean poop. the gold diggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09134199198587591427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-60230384936707833552015-10-06T14:45:53.820-07:002015-10-06T14:45:53.820-07:00Exactly, Lioners. You knew what you were getting i...Exactly, Lioners. You knew what you were getting into and you did it willingly. Sly has been very good about pointing out to Maria when she is gaining weight and advising her not to pursue certain career paths, as he thinks she can not handle the academics. This kind of treatment does not tend to create loving devotion.the gold diggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09134199198587591427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-29822077695335171222015-10-05T02:30:51.448-07:002015-10-05T02:30:51.448-07:00I am so sorry to hear about all that you and Primo...I am so sorry to hear about all that you and Primo are going through. I just got caught up on your blog. I will be praying for you. So hard for Primo to lose his mom.Marilyn Lesliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12666829350781897448noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-16623216920709650222015-10-04T21:02:25.850-07:002015-10-04T21:02:25.850-07:00And what if Sly falls on Maria? She should just be...And what if Sly falls on Maria? She should just be there so he isn't alone, but not taking care of him at all. Sprkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00661726059348272933noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-79677091449354379912015-10-04T20:24:53.559-07:002015-10-04T20:24:53.559-07:00taking. care of mother in her last few weeks was t...taking. care of mother in her last few weeks was the most difficult thing I ever attempted. totally inappropriate for a 22 year old granddaughter. totally.webbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15168174623602308906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-29456553089529305752015-10-04T19:33:50.330-07:002015-10-04T19:33:50.330-07:00By "raised two children," I mean that I ...By "raised two children," I mean that I had already spent years dealing with cleaning poop and scrubbing someone else's body, whereas my daughter hadn't. <br /><br />I don't mean to imply that someone must be a parent to be a competent caretaker. Lionorshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05214517929030206646noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-68503379225968155362015-10-04T19:30:17.858-07:002015-10-04T19:30:17.858-07:00Ugh, ugh, ugh.
When my dad was dying, i dealt wi...Ugh, ugh, ugh. <br /><br />When my dad was dying, i dealt with bathing him, dealing with diapers, and the portable toilet we moved into his bedroom--which had been the dining room before we needed a main floor bedroom for him.<br /><br />It was rough duty. I was happy to take care of him, but I was also a someone who had raised two children.<br /><br />My daughter was in her early twenties. She adored her grandfather and would have done all that was necessary for him, but I am relieved that she didn't have to.<br /><br />So I am hoping Maria isn't put in that position. I don't know Sly's relationship with her, but I somehow doubt that he has earned that kind of devotion and sacrifice from her.Lionorshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05214517929030206646noreply@blogger.com