tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post4280015705991299561..comments2023-10-05T10:00:27.231-07:00Comments on The Diary of a Gold-Digger: In which a rose by any other name is a darn weedthe gold diggerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09134199198587591427noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-20115044674981324182018-09-27T01:18:36.534-07:002018-09-27T01:18:36.534-07:00I love this about the country I'm in, that you...I love this about the country I'm in, that your legal name remains the one you are born with, and that it is non-negociable.<br /><br />People will still ask about whyyyyy aren't you taking your husband's name socially, but I can just tell them it's a hassle to have my social and legal names be different and be done with the argument. C.https://www.blogger.com/profile/15924857821499671882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-69561721077301552672013-08-18T17:18:03.731-07:002013-08-18T17:18:03.731-07:00I am about to get married, and I have the opposite...I am about to get married, and I have the opposite problem. I plan to take his name, legally and socially, and my fiance's grandmother has already said, "I'm not going to call you that, because even though you're marrying him, you won't really be part of the family."<br /><br />Well, OK then. <br /><br />But having read the entirety of your blog, my advice is to just ignore her. She's doing it to get a rise out of you, to give Primo a complaint of something else that's wrong with you. If you don't engage, she gets frustrated, and you win!Laurenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17961324142363330268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-44472119191345182272013-08-16T09:04:27.354-07:002013-08-16T09:04:27.354-07:00Indifference - I love it! Definitely the way to g...Indifference - I love it! Definitely the way to go. Actually, I fought this battle for years with various people - mostly MY stepmother - and finally just decided that i had more interesting things to do. Had i taken his last name, mine would have been incredibly close to a popular toilet paper. When I pointed that out ... it helped a little. Just ignore her.webbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15168174623602308906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-1811506005934289622013-08-16T06:57:05.581-07:002013-08-16T06:57:05.581-07:00Having fought similar battles with my MIL and now ...Having fought similar battles with my MIL and now skirmishing with my husband's stepmother over something similar, I know how irritating it is to deal with this. If you've asked her to use your maiden name and she refuses, then she's just being a jerk and there's nothing you can do to change her. <br /><br />If you really want to draw a line in the sand and make a stand, if she sends you something with your husband's last name instead of your own, return it to her unopened. Otherwise, just ignore her.Jen on the Edgehttp://www.jenontheedge.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-33103580154821889712013-08-16T05:10:53.252-07:002013-08-16T05:10:53.252-07:00I agree with Joan. Let her burn out without a reac...I agree with Joan. Let her burn out without a reaction. The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference. Highland Fashionistahttp://www.highlandfashionista.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-33242295945377025192013-08-16T04:21:57.342-07:002013-08-16T04:21:57.342-07:00It is only war if that is how you choose to react ...It is only war if that is how you choose to react to it. You're smart, I can tell from what you write. That is why I follow your blog. Let her have her childish "revenge"; age, alcohol and her husband have long withered any other source of power she might have once had.Joanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09458408621855773976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3577155903853273621.post-53330540812800925812013-08-16T02:28:30.243-07:002013-08-16T02:28:30.243-07:00My father sent me a cheque made out to me, but wit...My father sent me a cheque made out to me, but with Best Beloved's surname (which I had NOT taken, having assumed my grandmother's maiden name some decades ago). I had to take the marriage licence into the bank....Erikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08181307209370955942noreply@blogger.com