Sunday, July 23, 2017

Ch 6 Sly and Doris let themselves be talked into going to Stephanie's for Thanksgiving because spending Thanksgiving with your family is such a burden (not that I would want to spend it with Sly and Doris, but Stephanie is nice)

Primo: My parents have let themselves be talked into having Thanksgiving at Stephanie's.

Me: What do you mean, "talked into?"

Primo: They're going to Stephanie's for Thanksgiving.

Me: They don’t want to spend Thanksgiving with their grandchildren? The grandchildren they were complaining about not seeing enough?

Primo: I guess not.

Me: They would rather prepare a Thanksgiving meal – even if it’s not fancy – by themselves?

Primo: I guess so.

Me: Except with your mom’s wrist and your dad’s shoulder, they really can’t do much. So it would just be pizza or something like that.

Primo: Yep.

Me: They think they are doing Stephanie a favor by going to her house for Thanksgiving?

Primo: Apparently. They think they are doing the kids a favor.

Me: Because the kids really want to be with them? Do they not remember what Jack told them when he was drugged?

Primo: Oh yeah. Maybe they could take them to another lecture on global warming.

Me: That’s what would make Thanksgiving great for me.

Saturday, July 22, 2017

Ch 6 Jack has oral surgery and blurts out some truths to Sly and Doris, i.e., in vino veritas

Stephanie: Sly and Doris are really pissed at Jack.

Me: Why?

Stephanie: They gave him a ride home from the dentist because I was at work.

Me: You would have given your ex-husband a ride? You are nice to everyone.

Stephanie: Yes. I have to keep a good relationship with him. We have kids together. Besides, I don’t hate him. He’s not a bad person. That restaurant killed us. I think we would still be married if we had not moved here and he had kept his old job.

Me: OK. So they gave him a ride home. That was nice of them. They won’t pick us up at the airport but it’s nice to know that they will do a favor for someone sometime.

Stephanie: Yeah. He had something with drugs where he wasn’t allowed to drive after. They asked him why the kids don’t ever want to come over to their house and why they don’t seem to be happy when they are at their house.

Me: They don’t know why? I’ve known your kids for a lot less time than they have and it’s pretty obvious to me.

Stephanie: I guess not. He was still drugged, so he told them the truth. He said they don’t like being criticized all the time about how they talk or what they wear or about their jobs and college and what they eat.

Me: This was news to them?

Stephanie: They say it’s for the kids’ own good.

Me: So they know they are doing it and they do it anyhow?

Stephanie: Right? They are so mad at him. They have sent him a bunch of emails telling him he is wrong.

Me: He told you about the emails?

Stephanie: No! They copied me on them.

Me: Who does that?

Stephanie: They do.

Ch 6 Primo is on the path to perdition and I worry because you know, addiction does run in his family

Primo: My arm still hurts. I took some ibuprofen but it still hurts.

Me: Why don't you take some more?

Primo: No! I don't want to get hooked.

Me: What? Like ibuprofen is a gateway drug to aspirin?

Ch 6 Primo makes sure No Bacon is Left Behind and I am so proud – he clearly understands what it means to be a part of the tribe of We Who Do Not Waste

Primo: I can't believe you left all this bacon on your plate.

Me: I ate the lean out of it. That's just the fat.

Primo: I can't let this go to waste.

Me: You cannot eat those chunks of fat! That's disgusting!

Primo: It's the good part!

Me: It's gross and besides, it's cold!

Primo: I'll warm it up.

Me: It's still gross. I cannot believe you are going to eat that.

Primo: It's not like it's Oscar Mayer. It's Benton’s: It's the good stuff.

Friday, July 21, 2017

Ch 6 Primo plans to ask Sly about Sly’s old-age plans again, hoping that Sly has re-evaluated and updated the plan now that he has seen what it’s like to be even less mobile than he is used to

Primo: The wrist and my dad’s surgery have made it really clear that they are not prepared to cope with any kind of challenge. Their plan really cannot be just that I visit them twice a year.

Me: Boy no kidding. They don’t want to ask for help and they resent the help they do get.

Primo: I need to know what my dad wants to do if my mom goes first.

Me: I hope your dad dies first. Your mom deserves a few years of peace. She would be happy in a retirement community where she could have some friends.

Primo: He won't take her anywhere. He isolates her.

Me: She is lonely. I feel sorry for her.

Primo: But he is in a lot better health than she is.

Me: Your poor mom. She doesn’t deserve this.

Primo: My hope is that he will want to move near his sister. He has mentioned that before.

Me: You wouldn't bring him here, would you? I don’t want him living near us.

Primo: No! He wouldn't want to be here. He and his sister get along.

Me: Really? Does she know what he's like?

Primo: She is his sister! And they talk on the phone. He considers her an intellectual equal.

Me: I doubt that. He doesn’t think anyone is his equal. We are all pond scum to him. But does she know what he is like in everyday life?

Primo: Well, he says he couldn't live in the same house with her. Just near her.

Ch 6 I send Doris a note about her wrist, but I probably have a bad attitude about it

Dear Doris,

I was very sorry to hear the bad news that you broke your wrist. I hope you recover quickly and are not in any pain. I also hope that you are at least able to read books and magazines. Heal quickly!



Ch 6 Sly and Doris complain about Stephanie's help because there is nothing worse than someone driving over to your house to do the crap work like cleaning the litter box and putting out the trash and not sucking up to you while she is doing it

Primo: Stephanie has been helping.

Me: I know. I was messaging with her the other day.

Primo: They are complaining about her.

Me: Why?

Primo: They don’t like her attitude.

Me: Her attitude about what?

Primo: About helping them.

Me: She is helping them and they are complaining about it? They don’t like how she is helping them?

Primo: Yes.

Me: But she is not even related to them anymore. She is their ex-daughter in law. She has no obligation to them.

Primo: I know. But she still goes over every day to help them out, take them groceries, do the dishes, whatever.

Me: Why isn’t Jack helping?

Primo: They are waiting for him to volunteer.

Me: Yeah, that’s what Stephanie said. So let’s see. They turned down an offer of help from Ted. They won’t ask Jack to help. And when Stephanie just shows up every day to check on them, they don’t like her attitude?

Primo: My dad says she doesn't seem enthusiastic about it. She acts like it's just some kind of obligation. She doesn't seem happy.