In which Sly and Doris meet the retired RN who does caretaking and Sly thinks she is "smug"

Me 

how did it go with the RN/caretaker?

8:23am

Primo

She is very nice. They are going to give her a try. She will start by taking my dad to his surgery follow-up appointment on Friday.

We will see whether something like this can work. I didn't detect anything negative, but my dad thought that she seemed "smug."

Primo

I'm worn out. I will probably feel like being cranky about getting ready for the party after I get home.

Debbie did recommend an assisted-living place in town that we did not know about. My mom and I are going to look at it before I leave.

She said that assisted living was definitely "the direction in which they need to go" (or something like that).

Me 

back to your dad - what is his plan if the smug lady doesn't work out?
And will she do light housekeeping and cooking?

9:13am

Primo

Yes, she will.

I don't know what his plan is.

I don't think she is smug.

She said that she could do all kinds of stuff and that she is a good cook. I think they wanted her to acknowledge her limitations.

9:16am

Me 

Oh for pete's sake

do they want to sit in their own pee?

or do they want help?

if there are specific limitations that concern them, they could ask her.

Otherwise, of course she is going to highlight what she can do well

Primo

My mom mentioned today that we shouldn't talk to him about not being gracious and apologetic enough because he'd take it out on her after I leave.

1:49pm

Me 

that is very disturbing

Things Primo is not doing because he is stuck taking care of Sly and Doris - I think he should let them figure it out themselves - they are like alcoholics (well, they are alcoholics) - they need to hit rock bottom

Things Primo had promised to have done by the end of January February

1. The taxes, or most of it

2. The time share that Isabel got after the divorce but never took Primo's name off so when she died a year ago, it became Primo's problem and Primo's credit score, even though the time share people were perfectly happy to lend Isabel money to buy more credits without Primo's signature. The moral of this story is if you get divorced, make sure your ex has taken care of all the paperwork for things like this after the divorce or just do it yourself. Otherwise, you will be dealing with a huge pain in the neck after the ex dies.

3. Preparing my old computer to give to our bachelor neighbor with MS. Primo got me a new reconditioned HP, which I really don't like that much because it is so slow that I might as well have kept the old one, but it's too late to return it. It came with Windows 8, which could be the problem. Who knows? Anyhow, he was going to have my old one ready for Keith the first week of January.

It is still sitting in the living room.

Not sure any of this stuff would actually have been resolved even if Primo weren't having to deal with Sly and Doris, but now there is a legitimate reason for him not to finish the work.

In which there is more plumbing drama - if you are squeamish, don't read this

Primo stayed with Sly and Doris for a week.

Then came home for a day and a half.

And went back to Sly and Doris', where he will be for a week.

Because - and you know this - they had made no provisions whatsoever for care after Primo's departure and are incapable of taking care of themselves.

Primo has arranged for a retired RN who now does caretaking, including light housework, cooking, and grocery shopping, to come for an interview today.

Sunday

3/1, 8:43am

Primo

Cranky this morning. My dad peed in his shorts again last night. Fortunately, he was on a waterproof pad.

And one of the cats left a big, runny poop on the floor.

8:43am

Me

oh no!!

nobody is doing it right!

3/1, 8:44am

Primo

My mom thinks that Dad may be so embarrassed that he can't say anything. I said that it would help if he said that he's embarrassed.

8:44am

Me

Yeah

Your dad is never at a loss for words

I rather doubt he is too embarrassed to say anything

3/1, 8:44am

Primo

And apologized for our having to clean it up.

8:44am

Me

yes

8:44am

Primo

(It would help if he had also done that.)

8:44am

Me

I know what you meant

no, he is not embarrassed

3/1, 8:45am

Primo

I had to get up early because there was a lot of noise when the "accident" was discovered.

Cranky!

The lady who may be able to help is coming over at noon.

8:45am

Me

should be cranky!

they couldn't have quietly dealt with it?

or quietly waited for you to get up later?

3/1, 8:46am

Primo

My mom had to find the second waterproof pad, so there was much clattering around.