Primo: Oh! It's the anniversary of my dad's death.
Me (doing the math in my head): Oh yeah.
Primo: Ted posted something on facebook about it.
Me: What on earth did he post?
[I don't see anything Ted posts because I have him blocked. I do not want to be friends with Ted, either in real life or online.]
Primo: Some dumb sentimental thing.
Me: Ah, right. Ted didn't actually live with your dad.
Primo: And my niece sent me a message.
Me: That was nice! She is such a great kid.
Primo: Am I supposed to call people?
Me: About what?
Primo: About my dad's death.
Primo: Am I supposed to call people today to talk about my dad?
Me: No! No! Not if you don't want to. And even if you did, it would flow the other direction - you are the most grieved person, in theory, so other people should call you. You do not call them. You don't have to. But your nieces's text was really nice.