Primo: There's a letter in the paper to an advice columnist* from this woman who does not want to spend Christmas with her husband's siblings.
Me: Sometimes, you just have to do things to support your spouse.
Me: Although I did not support you by going to your mom and dad's.
Primo: The letter writer says her husband's died and the husband is lonely and wants to be with his siblings, but they are racists who hassle them for living in the big city.
Me: Well -- yes. It depends on why the spouse does not want to be with the in laws. If the in laws are jerks, then the spouse should not have to put up with it.
Primo: I have read some things my mom wrote to her friends - that I always visit them alone.
Me: That's because your mom and dad were mean to me.
Me: What was I supposed to do to get them to like me?
Primo: You were supposed to grovel and try to earn their approval, the way my mom had to with my dad's family.
* Yes, Primo and I discuss the letters to Carolyn Hax and Alison and usually agree on things like the gay couple should not donate sperm to the lesbian couple until they are very clear on what is required re child support by state law and that the person who is complaining about his next-door neighbor should talk to the neighbor before reporting him to the homeowners' association.