Monday, July 25, 2016

In which it is a year since the drama with Sly and Doris started with drunk Sly falling on drunk Doris and starting the chain of events that led to her death and it is still not over

You would think that six months or so would be enough to clean up and settle an estate, but you would be dead wrong.

1. The house is emptied and sold
2. Sly and Doris' 2015 taxes are done.
3. But - the grandchildren's trusts are not set up
4. Ted is still a pain in the ass
5. We have boxes and boxes of Sly and Doris' crap in our guest room.

Or maybe you wouldn't. Maybe you have experience in such things and it has been obvious to you all along that this was not going to go smoothly - put together two quasi-hoarders who make almost no death preparations, disinherit the executor and his half siblings, and add a disgruntled, entitled, obnoxious half sibling and you have yourself a nice situation comedy. Or dramady. Or something that makes people laugh and cry at the same time because honestly, what else are you going to do?

A year ago, Primo got the call about the drama having been set in motion. Doris told Primo, "This is the call you have been dreading" and LordHaveMercy she was right.

Thank you Sly and Doris for being such selfish jerks that you couldn't get your crap together.

Thank you Ted for picking up the mantle of The World's Biggest Jerk, at least in the Drunk Family, and trying to intimidate and bully Primo.

So lovely to have the dead keep on giving.

10 comments:

  1. It's so difficult. Even in families that get along, it takes at least a year to get rid of the property and file everything. In Primo's situation, it will be at least another 6 months. So sorry that Primo has not had the "luxury" to have some peace to process all the changes that took place last summer. I know he hides behind his engineering exterior, but underneath he still needs time to mourn and i suspect that he has not had a minute for it. keep on keeping on and eventually it will be over.

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    1. Thanks, webb. No, he really hasn't. I burst into tears over my dad's death frequently for a good year after he died. (And it can even happen now, almost 19 years later.)

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  2. Poor you guys. The whole "year of firsts" really takes its toll. Hope things started looking up soon after this!

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  3. Going on 4 years since my parent died. Nothing much done but lots of drama. My thoughts are with you both.

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    1. Four years? Ouch. That sounds awful. I hope things get resolved soon.

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  4. Sigh...My m-i-l had a small estate, and it still took a year.

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    1. So basically, it's a pain in the neck, no matter what.

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  5. Still trying to get through all my dad's stuff and he died 10 years ago. Had been holding onto items for my sister, her health problems and constant moving haven't let her take on any of the stuff of task of clearing.
    Home remodeling is starting soon so I am giving and throwing without worrying about sentimentality any more.
    CLM

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    1. Ten years? That is a long time. You are very good to your sister.

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