The whole truth and nothing but the truth about my husband, his parents, and me - That Woman.
Tuesday, February 16, 2016
In which Ted is laughing Primo out of the room because Ted, in addition to being an expert on brain surgery, is also an expert on selling houses, even though he has lived in the same house since before I met Primo and I think for over 20 years
Primo You saw my email to Ted and Jack, right? The one where I told them I had sold the car, sold the rest of the furniture, gotten the a/c repaired, upgraded my mom's computer for Jack, and listed the house with an agent?
it was very nice
Primo Ted responded. It was not an angry/asshole response, but he said that he hoped I'd negotiated a lower commission rate with the realtor. (I did not. I suppose I could have tried, but he could have brought that up earlier if he had not been so busy being an asshole.)
Again, you have disappointed Ted
Seriously - this from the man who wanted to be paid to go to his own father's funeral
and wanted $875 for a FF ticket
the only costs he is worried about are the ones that don't affect him
Man. Every time I think he can no longer surprise me
Primo I think 1% is not worth fighting over. And I'm getting more for "our" money with this guy, who is going to take care of a lot of the small tasks himself.
Primo He wrote "I hope you got the real estate agent down to a 5% commission. Six-percenters get laughed out of the room these days."
Me Oh sheesh
He had to find a way to insult you
I hope you are ignoring him
his email does not deserve an answer
not to mention, he knows this how?
from his vast experience selling houses?
Primo If we were to sell our house (with [the guy who found our house who is now our friend] listing it, of course), would it occur to you to ask him to take less than 6% commission?
I would do that only if we planned to do a ton of the work ourselves
and the agent were not our friend
would it occur to you?
Primo OK, then I don't feel bad. There is lots of stuff on the Internet about negotiating commissions, but in this case I am trusting someone with the house while I am away!
s one damn perfect
Primo I know. I don't care.
Me and frankly, there is only so much emotional investment
Primo He had to find some way to criticize.
Me that you should be expected to make in this
yes he did
I mean, it is $3,000-
but a good realtor is worth it
mine sold my house in three days
which dramatically reduced my stress
Primo And that person got 6%, right?
Me Yes it is not worth thinking about
and Ted is being a jerk
Primo The seller chooses the rate, and I assume that you signed for the standard 6%.
Me he just had to pick at you
I sighed the standard
Primo OK, then I don't feel bad about doing it.
Me I had heard of negotiating the rate
but it didn't occur to me
Primo And you are picky about saving money!
I just wanted a good agent and I wanted to sell
and I got my money's worth
Primo Maybe this is Ted not being a good liberal.
Primo This is Jason's livelihood. I don't want to cut his pay. He is going to go the extra mile for me. He is probably there working right now.
Me what is his deal?
Primo As [Stephanie's boyfriend] said last night, Ted is "a piece of work."
Primo I do feel bad for him. He is the oldest of his father's four children but is not in charge of any estate matters. He is the oldest of his mother's four children, but [Ted's other half brother by his mother] and his mother are co-trustees and I assume that [other half brother] will be in charge when she dies. But Ted has given people reasons not to trust him!
It's OK to feel bad for him
but that does not give him license to treat you badly
Me and it is not your fault that he is being treated that way
Two weeks before our wedding, my husband's parents called to tell him 1. they weren't coming and 2. he shouldn't marry me. Since then, I have gotten along with them about as well as you might think. PS They died hating me and disinherited my husband. PPS None of this is made up.
And now, Primo is running for state-level public office for the November 2018 election. And - it's not fun. For either of us.