Primo: Ted and Jack want to have a family celebration for my
dad’s 80th birthday.
Me: OK.
Primo: They want me to come.
Me: OK. Go ahead. Have a good time. Your vacation, your
money.
Primo: Wait! Don’t you want to go?
Me: You want me to spend money and vacation time to celebrate
a man who screamed at his own grandchildren and who has never done one thing to
make me feel welcome in his home? No thanks.
Primo: They will not be happy.
Me: I don’t care. Besides, they don’t really want me around.
For sure, your dad does not want me around. I am trying to build a better
relationship with your mom, but your dad has never shown any interest in
engaging with me in any way.
Primo: You’re right. They want me all to themselves, but
they want to reject you. What will we tell them, though?
Me: That I’m going to be washing my hair that night.
Primo: I can’t say that!
Me: Then tell him I have something going on at work. And I
do. I have work. I can take vacation or not take vacation and I am sure not
going to take vacation just so I can watch your dad scream at Michael and Maria or whomever in person.
The biggest shocker here is that Primo is taken aback that you do not want to go. I would like to think that maybe he still can't conceive (at that point) of saying to to Sly as an option.
ReplyDeleteBut you're absolutely right, they're going to say that you Did It Wrong no matter what you do, so you may as well Do It Wrong in peace, at home, with no yelling.