Primo: I am going to have to change my mother's bedpan in the potty chair.
Me: That is going to be gross.
Primo: So will my dad tell me I shouldn't be grossed out?
Me: I don't know.
Primo: He was cranky when I called him before - he said they were getting too many phone calls.
Me: You mean calls from their children, who are concerned about them?
Me: What are you going to do if they refuse to do anything? To hire help, to plan a move?
Primo: They have to do something!
Me: But what will you do if they don't?
Primo: They HAVE to!
Me: You can't make them.
Primo: But I can't keep going there to take care of them in a crisis!
Me: It's working for them so far.
Primo: I am going to tell them that before I leave, they have to have someone hired to come in and help them every day.
Me: And if they don't?
Primo: They have to! I can't keep doing this!