Monday, August 17, 2015

In which Primo is planning his fifth (fourth? I am having a hard time keeping track) emergency visit to Sly and Doris' in six months

Primo: I am going to have to change my mother's bedpan in the potty chair.

Me: That is going to be gross.

Primo: So will my dad tell me I shouldn't be grossed out?

Me: I don't know.

Primo: He was cranky when I called him before - he said they were getting too many phone calls.

Me: You mean calls from their children, who are concerned about them?

Primo: Yes.

Me: What are you going to do if they refuse to do anything? To hire help, to plan a move?

Primo: They have to do something!

Me: But what will you do if they don't?

Primo: They HAVE to!

Me: You can't make them.

Primo: But I can't keep going there to take care of them in a crisis!

Me: It's working for them so far.

Primo: I am going to tell them that before I leave, they have to have someone hired to come in and help them every day.

Me: And if they don't?

Primo: They have to! I can't keep doing this!


  1. Goldy my lovely, I have a question. Is this in real time? I know with the polititical shenanigans it was all posted well after the fact, and wondering it this is too. I'm getting actually stressed out on YOUR behalf, so it would be good to know it you are out into the clear blue waters of "it's all resolved"... Jo x

    1. Jo, you are so sweet. Thank you. No, this is not real time - it is posted with a four-month lag. I am not sure what to tell you - yes, it is resolved. I will leave it to you guys to decide if it is a happy ending or not. :)

  2. Ahhh phew. I am quite happy to read it as you post it - I'm just so glad you're not living the stress in the right here and now. I feel a distinct need to bang their bloody heads together! J x

    1. Wellllllll -- it doesn't get better for a long time. And it's still not really done. However, there is at least an end in sight. And I have to say that the plot does get super interesting. I sure never saw any of this coming.

  3. So glad things are somewhat resolved for you. I was worried about you and Primo, too. It sounds like you went through an immensely difficult time.

    1. Thank you. Yes, it has been very hard, especially for Primo. The moral of the story, which of course all of you guys already know, is that you can't leave stuff until the last minute because something will always come along to ruin your plans.

  4. Glad to see your posts. I was not getting the email updates since signing up after the invitation, so I checked on the page. I tried to sign up for emails again, but it tells me I am already signed up. No biggie - I can check on the page itself.

    I was worried about you during the first part of this month. Hope all worked out.

    This sadly reminds me of Mom. She smoked 2 cartons of cigs a week for years and would not heed any doctor's advice on the rare occasions that I could make her go. 9 days before she died a horrible death (I am sure it was cancer), her 70 lb. self told me at 2 AM on Saturday "Call the doctors. Tell them I Know I have cancer and am ready to be treated."

    I could do nothing for her except give her the sub-lingual hospice morphine the last 5 days of her life. Not much on planning, either. The only positive out of this is that it basically lasted 6 weeks. I can't imagine dragging out something like this for an extended period.

    Again - glad you are seemingly OK and have made it thru the whitewater.

    --Tammy in Crime-free Bluff City

    1. Tammy, that is so sad. I am so sorry your mom suffered like that and that you had to watch her. It is horrible to watch someone you love in pain.

      As far as Primo and me - we are fine. Lots of drama now, but nothing we can't handle.

  5. I'm glad to read (in the comments above) that there is something of a solution coming up. But is there another solution when parents refuse to take care of themselves? I don't know if you can force help on them or not by showing that they aren't "all there" when it comes to taking care of themselves, but this has to be more than frustrating for all of you guys. At some point, Primo needs to be taking care of himself and his current family, too, and being away that much can't be healthy for you guys either. :(


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