That was today.
Let's recap this situation with Ted, shall we?
July: Sly dies. Four days later, Ted tells Primo he might contest the will. As if Primo can do anything about it - Primo is not in the will, either.
More July, while we are on vacation: Ted sends insistent emails, asking Primo questions about the estate and the trust and how much the executor (Primo) can charge for expenses. Ted demands a conference call. Primo declines.
August: Ted comes to the funeral and is a bit of a jerk, although not as jerky as he could be.
After the funeral: Ted emails Primo, telling him he wants to be reimbursed his travel expenses. Primo thinks Ted is talking about the trip Ted took in early June to be with Sly while Primo came home. (And even then, Ted called or texted - I am not exaggerating - five times a day to tell Primo things like Sly didn't like the food.)
August: Ted emails again with a list of expenses. The expenses include not just the early June trip but his trip to attend Doris' funeral and his trip to attend HIS OWN FATHER'S FUNERAL.
The expenses include a reimbursement of $875 per ticket per trip for tickets he got with frequent flier miles that could have been purchased for about $400.
August: Ted emails, demanding that Primo give him a date when he will write a check.
Note that not one single other creditor of the estate has been paid. Primo's expenses have not been reimbursed and his expenses are legally allowable to be paid.
Ted makes a snide comment about Primo's grammar and asks why Primo signs his emails, as "It's clear who it is from."
August: Primo emails Ted that he does not think it reasonable to pay $875 per ticket when the tickets could have been purchased for far less. He tells Ted he will give him the $400 a ticket once he gets the checks for the estate.
Ted calls Primo and screams at him that Primo does not know what kind of trouble he is in now that Ted is angry with him. No, Ted had not read the email but his wife had and HE NEVER WANTS TO GET A PHONE CALL LIKE THAT FROM HIS WIFE AGAIN!
(I tell Primo: Then perhaps he needs to discuss that with his wife.)
Then Ted shouts, "I am hanging up on you!" and hangs up.
Late August: Ted emails Primo, saying he has finally read Primo's emails and
1. He is learning things about Primo he does not like
2. Primo is losing his trust
3. He feels sorry for Primo. (Me: Because you have a brother like Ted?)
Early September: Primo sends a nice text asking for detente.
Now we wait.