Do you do that? Do you try
hard to be really nice to the people you can’t stand so they won’t know that
you don’t like them?
Why? Why do that? I do that.
I don’t get it. Why do I care about their approval? Would it be so awful for
someone you DON'T LIKE to think badly of you especially when she has already
said that she is not coming to your wedding and her son shouldn’t marry you?
Yeah it's crazy.
Mother spent 25 years worrying about what her in-laws thought of her and disliked them - well, at least her MIL - every single day. It wasn't pleasant for anyone. In a lot of ways you and Primo were lucky that it worked out the way it finally did.
ReplyDeleteNot so crazy, really. I have said on AAM before, killing jerks and bullies with niceness 1) drives them crazy because they think they're not getting to you, and 2) makes it blindingly obvious to the rest of the world what a huge jerk they really are.
ReplyDeleteOf course, there are some forms of verbal and emotional that we shouldn't have to put up with, but you can enforce boundaries without being nasty.
In theory.