Thursday, August 16, 2018

The Candidate's Wife: To endorse or not to endorse - Reader's Digest version because the actual transcript would bore you to tears

Me: No.

Primo: Maybe.

Me: Nononono.

Primo: Maybe.

Me: Why should you?

Primo: Party unity.

Me: Screw the party.

Primo: I know.

Me: Honestly. Why should she get your literal political capital?

Primo: Because I still want her to win the seat because it's good for my side and because after spending time with her yesterday, I like her.

Me: Uh huh.

Primo: She is really very nice.

Me: But we don't like her!

Primo: I know...


Primo: But - after talking to her, I realize she is actually very nice.

Me: And Not Running Again! And Other Political Guy Who Tweeted About Her!

Primo: I asked her about that. NRA is her neighbor. She's never even met OPG and was horrified at the idea of developing that land.

Me: She seems clueless. Her issues...

Primo: We might have been wrong about that. I asked her about the human trafficking. She said that she has been working at weddings in our district and has seen women being taken to rooms - women she knows are victims of human trafficking.

Me: I hate being wrong. Were we wrong about EVERYTHING?

Primo: I don't know. Her speeches are bad.

Me: But only because she hasn't had practice.

Primo: Yes. I was bad at first.

Me: And then you listened to me and got better.

Primo: I think I might endorse her.

Me: But we don't like her!

Primo: But maybe we do? She really is very nice.


Primo: It's the right thing to do.


  1. There seems to be something missing in this string of posts about his decision. Primo really, really wanted to be elected to something and put in a lot of work and even sacrificed his career. This year there was finally a real chance that he could win in his district. Then a primary challenger pops up and he just gives up without a fight? That doesn't make sense. Why didn't he get the signatures he needed, beat her in the primary, and then go on to win the election? Surely he didn't quit just because you wanted to take a vacation in July rather than August, did he?

    1. Hi Dennis. Yes, there is. This was a very stressful time for us and I didn't write about it until a month after it happened. I just wanted to be - done. I don't even remember what I wrote - but basically, Primo didn't feel like he could campaign against her on the one thing that differentiated them - that she is a woman - and she was hitting that part hard.

      He didn't want to have to run really hard in a primary and then also run really hard in a general. It's exhausting. He lost 20 lbs the last campaign (and he doesn't have a lot of weight to lose). Pretty much everyone else around here has to run in just a primary or just a general.

      He also told me that he has always run because he felt like someone needed to and nobody else was stepping up. That did not make me happy at all! I can think of a lot better things to do with our time and money than make a point for the party.

      There are some other very personal things - not personal for me, as you guys know I pretty much let it all out here, but personal for Primo that are not mine to share.

      It's all good. He is a much happier person now!

    2. That all makes sense. As important as it is that we get good representatives, it's understandable that most sensible people would choose to avoid the whole business. It seemed odd in this case, though, because Primo has worked so hard on his previous campaigns.

  2. She's nice, she's aware of issues. But can she be EFFECTIVE? That's the only key to whether or not to endorse in my book.

    And also - what are the odds that she's playing Primo about developing the land?

    1. Odds are pretty low. Primo has gotten to know her better since June and is very comfortable with he

    2. Glad to hear it. Glad it's working out in a way that makes you both comfortable/happy.