Saturday, November 14, 2015

In which Sly dies

Sly has died.

Primo calls me at 7 a.m. to tell me. His dad had died an hour earlier.

We speculated about the will. (Because we are human is why. And because Primo is pretty sure that whatever happens, Ted and Jack will be unhappy and will fight him.)

"I think I should give money to each of the grandkids," Primo says. "Enough to cover their student loads."

"And then I could run another political campaign."

I swallow hard. If Primo does inherit anything, well, it is his money. I mean, it is ours, but morally, it is his.

Then Primo tells me that he wants to move the piano and the bookcase from his mom and dad's to our house.

That is, pay someone to move a bookcase and a piano a thousand miles.

I don't want more stuff in my house and I really don't want stuff from Sly and Doris in my house. And I don't want to pay to move stuff I don't want in my house.

Maybe he'll forget about it?

I think life is going to get easier.


  1. Belated and current wishes of peace to Sly, Primo and you. I hope things do get easier.

  2. I'm sad for Primo and relieved for Sly (and everyone). So sorry for Primo's loss so close to losing his mother. Hoping Sly passed on his own without Primo and Jack having to go against Ted. We've always been blessed that everyone in our family was in agreement before we made those decisions.

    I thought there wasn't a will yet, which puts it all in the hands of the state. Anyway, hoping that was not/is not much of a mess (as that can go on for a loooong time.

    Blessing to all, especially you and Primo.

  3. I disagree that moral it is his money. You and he jointly decided to take a massive paycut so he could have a sabbatical, which he ended up spending caring for his ailing parents. If he wants to run another political campaign, regardless of how it's funded, that needs to be a joint decision.

    My thoughts and prayers are with you both.


  4. So sad and relieved at the same time for you both.
    Please tell your love to get some much needed physical + emotional rest.

    *realtime blessings for pastime events

  5. My condolences to Primo.
    I hope he will, when he has time to think, consider your generousity in agreeing to the sabbatical and put some of the money aside for something that mattered to you (like the new roof). However, knowing Ted, there may be no money...

  6. Obviously, have known this was coming for a long tme, but nothing blunts the fact.
    Am so sorry that you and Primo had to endure the past month - so difficult, so emotional. Thoughts with you both - still, today.

  7. Oh I was kind of expecting this. My condolences to you both. Watching both your parents decline like that, so close together, must have been incredibly painful. Hoping there is some peace for you both now.

  8. Condolences and kind thoughts to both Primo and you. I hope life has gotten easier for you both.
    (on a completely selfish note - I hope this doesn't mean you'll stop blogging! I look forward to your posts every day.)

  9. So sorry. It's been a long and hard road for everybody - including Sly & Doris. Hugs and condolences to you all.

    - AC

  10. After hearing about the c-diff, I wasn't expecting Sly to make it. The same thing happened to my husband's 90-year-old aunt. She picked up a UTI in rehab, was given antibiotics for it, developed c-diff, and died soon after. I was in charge of Aunt Betty's health care, and it was so hard to watch her be so miserable and then give up. Since the same thing has now happened with Sly, I am now officially terrified of (A) having to go to rehab for any reason and (B) receiving antibiotics for anything.

    For Primo, my condolences. He never even got to catch his breath (and have time to grieve) after his mother's death before he was thrown in the deep end of caregiving and crisis. Wow. I'm so sorry for you both.

  11. Condolences, though belated. I hope you & Primo are doing ok now, and sharing via your blog has helped in real life.

  12. I hope so much that Primo and you have regrouped and recovered.

  13. My condolences to Primo. It must have been very rough to lose both parents so close together.

    Hope you are both OK.

  14. Please give Primo my condolences (late as they are).

  15. I am so sorry for your and Primo's loss. I hope things get better for you both now.

  16. You guys, thank you for your kind words. I have shared them with Primo (reading them yesterday from my phone while we were driving around Houston at our college reunion). It has been very hard on him.

  17. My condolences to you, Primo, and your family. It's never easy, and I have a feeling the drama isn't over, but I hope that it's at least reached a crescendo and is starting to recede.

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