Primo: Oh no. Look at this email I got from my mom.
Doris: I had written another email but decided not to send it. We will feel abandoned if you don't come for Christmas.
Me: What does that even mean, “I had written another email but decided not to send it?” Either send the email or don’t mention it.
Primo: It means that the one she wrote is way worse than the one she sent.
Me: And she wants you to know that.
Me: Not passive aggressive at all.
Primo: My mom is not passive aggressive.
Me: I think if you look up the phrase in the dictionary, you will see her photo.
Primo: I don’t think so.
Me: OK. I am not interested in convincing you, but she is definitely manipulative.
Me: Maybe? She wrote that they will “feel abandoned” if you don’t spend Christmas with them! I’m not sure of the proper term for that, but I am happy to call that manipulative.